Often, I hear women complain about how their boyfriends or husband spend too much time on with their video games… frankly, I am sick of hearing about it. Heres why…
My husband likes playing video games. He enjoys watching soccer on the tv. Indoor soccer takes up one night a week for him. Sometimes, heaven forbid, he has to read.
But none of that bothers me (Okay, not usually. Unless I am feeling super needy.)
All of these hobbies are part of what make Spencer, Spencer.
Without his love for these things, he just wouldn’t be the same man.
I think every relationship needs to build on these strengths. Sometimes that means you need to join in on the soccer games. Maybe sit in the audience. Just show some support!
Other times, that means doing your own thing so that he can do his own thing.
YOU ARE NOT JOINED AT THE HIP!
I promise I love my husband to bits and pieces, but sometimes I just need my own time to read, get my blog together, do homework, or just be by myself.
It strengthens our relationship when we develop our own talents and are involved in our own hobbies because it allows us to continue to grow.
Relationships are two people growing together, not stifling each other.
So let him have a hobby, have your own hobby, and get a hobby together.
It is the best thing you will ever do.
xoxo
Ilona K.
February 11, 2015My husband does not play games … but my children likes it … and it annoys me. I'm limiting them sometimes, technology is going so fast.
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Yeah, I definitely won't let my children play games all day long either!
Amberly
February 11, 2015I love this post!!! I think it's definitely great to have your own hobbies and spend time on your own. It's important to the sanity of both spouses and like you said, you aren't joined at the hip. You didn't fall in love with your spouse for just who they are when you are together, but who they are as an individual. I love it when my husband will go out and do his own thing or watch his own show while I'm doing homework or something else and I like knowing that he doesn't mind if I leave him home for a night and go out with friends. And although we try to do most of our "me time" stuff when the other isn't home because our time together is limited already, I don't think it's a problem every once and a while have that time when you're technically at home together but doing separate things, just as long as you're sure that your marriage is still a priority and you're not neglecting that relationship 🙂
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Thank you! Completely agree, you cannot neglect your relationship, EVER! But it is so important to make sure you spend time developing your own hobbies!
Amanda {Planning It All}
February 11, 2015It's important to have things that you enjoy on your own. I used to try to always watch football with my husband but I realized that I'm just not into it and that's ok. I don't make him watch Downton Abby with me!
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Yeah, NOT WORTH IT!
Lizzie
February 11, 2015amen, sister! great reminder.
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Thanks, Cute Girl!
Anonymous
February 11, 2015I can't believe someone found something to complain about in this post. It seems pretty innocent to me. I loved it! I think it's important that couples feel content enough to spend time apart.
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Thanks for agreeing with me! That was a little strange.
Alana @ihaveafutureandahope
February 11, 2015I may be weird, but my husband and I do almost everything together, but we have been married for 17 years too, and have 4 kids. Any extra time we have we spend it together because with the kids it's rare to find it. It's great though that you and your husband understand time alone is great when you get it too.
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015You may just have the same hobbies! I am sure you are alone when you write your blog though. Sometimes my husband are in the same room, just doing different things.
Anonymous
February 11, 2015I LOVE spending time with my man BUT I love our individual time as well. Curling up with a good book, watching trashy TV or writing on my own while he's doing his thing is music to my ears <3
ps: I REALLY HOPE my comment comes through this time ; )
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015It certainly came through! Thanks for making sure it did! I love to curl up with a book too, and you want time to do that!
Girl UPcycled
February 11, 2015Absence makes the heart grow fonder
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015AGREED!
jyonash
February 12, 2015I think it is healthy for spouses to have their own hobbies…as long as they can still find things to connect with!! I love to scrapbook…my husband loves baseball cards…to each his own! We love to be together too! Best of both worlds!!
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015Exactly! In a way, your both scrapbooking 😉
Natalie
February 12, 2015I love that my husband and I have our own hobbies. We've both tried to join in on the other's at times, but eventually we both come back to what we enjoy. Beautiful outfit! I ordered some stuff from Twice a few weeks ago and got a great deal!
lauryncakes
February 12, 2015I think it is great that you did that! Also, love Twice!
Shannon Peterson
February 12, 2015I think having separate interests is part of what keeps a relationship healthy! As much as I love my husband, I totally need "me" time!
Zarouhi Zaz
February 15, 2015Lauryn, you are so right – we all have our separate interests and they are what make the people we are drawn to in the first place! Thanks for linking to #AllAboutYou, and I just love this outift!
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